I'm Edmond Lau — founder of Co·Awaken — and a man who left everything familiar to follow what was true.

I spent 17 years in a sexless relationship where I was slowly disappearing. Eight of those married. I’d built a career as a Silicon Valley engineer, published a bestselling book, founded a thriving leadership business — and still felt like I was dying inside.

The turning point wasn’t a breakthrough. It was a breakdown. I stopped following what I should do and started following what my body, my desire, and my soul had been whispering for years. I left the marriage. I walked away from tech. I followed aliveness instead of achievement.

That choice unraveled everything — and gave me back my life.

What I found on the other side was something I didn’t expect: that the very things I’d been running from — desire, fear, shame, the raw vulnerability of being seen — were the doorways I’d been looking for. That sex wasn’t something to hide. That partnership wasn’t something to survive. That both were paths to the kind of awakening no meditation cushion had ever given me.

Today I live in Boulder, Colorado with my wife Kiki and our daughter Ember. I’m building Co·Awaken — a modern-day school for couples who sense that their relationship can be more than what they’ve been taught. More than compromise. More than communication tips. More than “making it work.”

We believe that partnership is sacred technology — a living, embedded spiritual practice that transforms not just the couple, but the family, the home, and the world around them. That desire is a compass, not a threat. That rupture is an initiation, not a failure. And that sex, when met with presence and devotion, becomes one of the most potent systems for transformation we have.

This is where I think out loud about sex, partnership, fatherhood, desire, and what it actually takes to come home to yourself. If that's your territory too, you're in the right place.

Come find us at Co·Awaken.